Being sad is foolish

You have lived a colourful life and are apparently living one. You have had moments of joy with your friends, families, strangers. You have felt that form of human connection at some point of time, that has made you smile. If you are comparing your account with that of the better- or the worse-offs, then nothing will ever be enough for you, your problem. But if you are sane in taking ownership of your life the way it has been disconnected with the your social locus, then you would agree, that amidst all chaos, there definitely have been many-a-moment of joys too! But is that still enough to claim that you "are" a happy individual? No. You want more and you want more "for long". 

"I wish we had more time together", "I wish I could savour the taste for long", "I wish we worked out forever and got married", "I wish I could stay in this country for long", "I wish this person lived a little longer", "I wish I could stay this successful even through my adulthood"...always wanting more! Moments are not enough, we want episodes, movies, our entire life to be as joyous/chill as our best moment yet! Not bad, but foolish. 

Expecting persistence from the perilous is foolish. Time passes, things change. Yes, some things change faster than others and often are looked at with disgust. Funny how "relativity", the inherent property of co-existence could be a reason for some people to label others. Ha! Time is still not the culprit. The culprit is how you measure time-- in moments? in years? in emotions/ phases? The best way is to NOT use it as a reference, because it's relative and your memory is getting reworked every moment!

It was you only, right? The kid-you, the-teenage you, the-adulting you? But you don't feel like you owned the joy you had in childhood, NOW, correct? Why is that? You own it today only for social cosmetics but you don't feel it. None of it really feels like completely yours but you still have to use it on your account because you are responsible for the functioning of the body-mind complex in this material world as long you exist. There's no escape from the trash and the trophies your have collected until now, unless you renounce everything and decide to rebrand yourself materialistically. You don't remember everything and constantly something new is happening that's already taking you away from your past. So the crisis happens when you keep comparing your past to your present and keep wanting to do better and more in the future out of some unrealistic fear or crazy ambitions, completely giving in into the distorted reality without taking a look from the far. 

If you look at the biggest picture possible, you might realise that none of it was (and is) "you". It was a beautiful interplay between matter, energy and some kinetics that gave the composition a direction to walk. The composition being "you" as in the body and the associated unrestricted free mind, eventually restricted due to the memory and identity bias,  kept changing and will keep changing at unspecified regular or erratic time intervals. So there is literally no use in the incessant comparison between the opposites of the world and applying the same to your own so-called trajectory, because technically it was never "yours". You are just the carrier. Be a carrier. Do that duty sincerely. Don't question it, it will only drag you into a maze you wouldn't escape from easily, only to realise in the end, that it was all in vain. Don't stress over things which are out of your control. Only thing you can control is the bare minimum survival effort inflicted by your raw-animal instinct, everything else is tainted by experiential bias. 

None of the seven stages were in anyone's control and will never be. There's no point in reflecting over and complaining about what's happened in the past once you have already analysed the facts. If you want to take action, take action for the future untainted by your past events. Survive and fight the challenges thrown at you. Because they are coming at you each moment, you only need to recognise them and fight them. Don't waste time thinking of happiness and "wanting" things. Spend time being happy and working on things which are essential. Do your duty, rest all will be taken care of. That's the bare minimum and the only thing to be done sincerely. Walk the walk with a smile and you will never complain of unhappiness. 

Because, being sad is foolish.